ANGER MANAGEMENT

ANGER MANAGEMENT

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. We all know that getting angry is not good in life but all of us get angry at some point of time in life. Why at times our mind gets violent & anger is expressed in our nature? In a state of anger we hurt our near & dear one’s by speaking angry words. When anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems for oneself, as well as, for others also. In the state of anger we are at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion which if not controlled by us does harm only to our life. If anger is not controlled, it can lead to physiological , as well as, psychological problems in our life.

 

EFFECTS OF ANGER

In todays life what we observe is the increasing anger among all the age groups. Why?

Why is this increasing ? Why kids ,teens ,young generation getting prone to it?

The answer lies in not living life fully. In our each article we always stress on Healthy Living . If a person is healthy inside he definitely would be healthy outside with positive thoughts , cool and calm nature , have control on emotions fully.

• Out-of-control anger can damage your relationships, impair your judgment, get in the way of success, and have a negative impact on the way people see you.
• Out-of-control anger hurts your physical health. Constantly operating at high levels of stress and anger makes you more susceptible to heart disease, diabetes, a weakened immune system, insomnia, and high blood pressure.
• Out-of-control anger hurts your mental health. Chronic anger consumes huge amounts of mental energy and clouds your thinking, making it harder to concentrate or enjoy life. It can also lead to stress, depression, and other mental health problems.
• Out-of-control anger hurts your career. Constructive criticism, creative differences, and heated debate can be healthy. But lashing out only alienates your colleagues, supervisors, or clients and erodes their respect.
• Out-of-control anger hurts your relationships with others. It causes lasting scars in the people you love most and gets in the way of friendships and work relationships. Explosive  anger makes it hard for others to trust you, speak honestly, or feel comfortable—and is especially damaging to children.

HOW TO CONTROL ANGER

Now how can we control this anger? Basically, to control anger is to first control & calm your mind. If your mind remains in a state of calm then no negative emotions can arouse in it. To be peaceful at mind, the easiest way is that we let our mind delve inside our own inner nature rather than hankering after outside the worldly objects.

• The aim of this article isn’t to suppress feelings of anger but rather to understand the message behind the emotion and express it in a healthy way without losing control.
• When you do, you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also be more likely to get your needs met, be better able to manage conflict in your life, and strengthen your relationships.

• Mastering the art of anger management takes work, but the more you practice, the easier it will become

ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS

1. We should daily do Yoga and meditation, as in meditation mind becomes peaceful and calm. If mind continuously runs after worldly things outside then it gets disturbed when the thing of desire is not attained. When the mind gets disturbed in this way then anger arouses in the mind & it leads to negative consequences only. When you close your eyes in meditation, you start delving inside your inner nature. What is your inner nature? It’s nothing but your Soul inside, where you delve in times of meditation & attain peace. In Soul, there is peace only.
2. Make body healthy by following Laws of Nature.
3. Eat Healthy Natural diet rather than junk ,fried ,spicy food. If you are healthy inside you have to put no efforts for controlling your emotions they will be controlled automatically.
4. Intake 7-8 glasses of water and 1 glass juice daily.
5. Value each and every relationship as each relationship is priceless and can”t be bought from anywhere.
6. While Starting your day in the morning just pledge of not becoming angry that day whatever happens. Every problem has a solution.Solve each challenge and situation calmly.
7. Whatever we present in front of our children it will be reflected back to us .So avoid anger in front of kids .Try to calm yourself .
8. Resolve every problem and situation without loosing temper .
9. Controlling anger can take sometime for a habitual person but not impossible. It will take sometime but if one make his will power strong he can definitely win over his/her anger.
10. Spare out time for your near and dear ones.
11. You have to won over your own emotion of anger by keeping calm .
12. Deep breath when find yourself difficult in controlling anger .Have a glass of water immediately.
13. Try to be in company of Positive thinking ,smiling ,motivated people.

14. Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
15. Remind yourself that anger won’t fix anything and might only make it worse.

Here below is a beautiful story about Anger Management

“There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down.

He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say something or hurt someone  in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.” A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.”

“Make your Anger so Expensive that no one can afford it and Make Your Happiness so cheap that people can almost get it free”

 

 

 

 

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